| Ambivalent
relationships with acquaintances can raise stress and blood pressure levels, according
to a study reported in the July issue of Health Psychology.
"Most
people can think of someone they might feel ambivalent toward
-- a mother you love very much but who is also overbearing or
critical, or a good friend who's lots of fun yet very competitive,"
said lead researcher Julianne Holt-Lunstad, an assistant psychology
professor at Brigham Young University.
Holt-Lunstad
and her colleagues had 102 study subjects wear portable, concealed
blood pressure monitors for three days. Besides making detailed
notes in a diary about how they felt about the people they met,
the participants also pressed a button about five minutes into
every social interaction to record their blood pressure.
The researchers
found that in relationships, mixed feelings seemed to be more
unsettling than outright hostility.
"When
you're interacting with those you feel aversive or negative toward, these people
are predictable and you will either avoid them or you can discount them because
you know what to expect from them," Holt-Lunstad explained. "But for
a person you feel both positive and negative toward, there could be hope and an
expectation for something positive, and then, when you don't get the support you
wanted, this can be very distressing." The
study also reaffirmed the sense of security that people tend to find among family
members, said Kathleen Light, who directs the Stress and Health Research Program
at the University of North Carolina School of Medicine. Light
said the researchers found that people tend to have more frequent positive interactions
with family members and spouses. Even when they have negative interactions with
relatives, the blood pressure levels do not rise as much as when negative interactions
occur with other people, she added. "This
may be one reason why people with strong family ties live longer and experience
better quality of life," observed Light. By
recognizing nuances in their relationships, Holt-Lunstad said people can begin
to evaluate their social networks to consider who might be most beneficial to
approach in various circumstances. "We
might know some people who are unreliable in some situations but who are there
for us in others," said Holt-Lunstad. "We can be strategic about our
coping." Holt-Lunstad
said psychology is gaining in influence now that leading causes of death are influenced
highly by behavior. "Many of them, like heart disease, develop slowly over
time and are chronic, so people need to adjust their lifestyles to prevent and
deal with those illnesses," she added.
Other
sources: Brigham Young University
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